Tuesday, November 17, 2009

2009 Wedding Lessons Learned: Contracts & Honesty

Series: 2009 Wedding Lessons Learned

Our 2009 wedding season started out with a huge lesson to be learned. I've discussed this topic frequently here on the blog, but it needs to be said over and over again. GET CONTRACTS FROM ALL YOUR VENDORS! No matter how involved your vendor may or may not be on the wedding, get their services and pricing in writing and have it signed by yourself and the vendor. A contract, above and beyond making things binding, is a guaranteed way to ensure that you get the service that you believe you are paying for on the wedding day, from the person you believe it is being provided by.

This lesson learned was learned by my client the hard way, when she learned 3 days before the wedding day that whom she believed was her hairdresser for the big day actually was scheduled elsewhere. I had insisted to the bride that she get a contract from the salon, but she assured me that the salon was professional and had everything together. Turns out, they just wanted her money and were prepared to leave my bride and bridal party out in the cold. We were fortunate enough to have time to fix the situation once we found out that the salon was backing out, but what if we hadn't had time?

Please please please, get contracts from everyone involved in your wedding day. If you've hired a coordinator, we want to see every last contract {including, yes, the ice sculpture being delivered} to ensure that you get what you paid for.

Monday, November 16, 2009

Series: 2009 Wedding Lessons Learned

As promised, over the next few weeks I'll be posting a new series called "2009 Wedding Lessons Learned". After each wedding that I am apart of, I sit down and write a debriefing. This debrief includes what I thought went well, what I thought went poorly, as well as reactions and feedback from my clients. While it would be naive to say that every wedding goes 100% smoothly and that there are no errors, being behind the scenes means that I get to see the good, the bad and the ugly. I decided to write this series to help you, the brides and grooms and vendors out there as a way so that we can get closer to 100% perfection. Vendors see ALOT in this industry and every idea that's out there that you may want to include may not always be the most successful or appropriate for your wedding. I will aim to deconstruct as much as possible from what I have seen at each of the weddings I was apart of this year to ensure that you get the big picture!

If you have any comments or questions, please do ask!


Thursday, November 12, 2009

St. John Wedding

For those that follow me on Twitter know that yesterday we flew down to Puerto Rico to board a cruise ship for 3 days to celebrate our friend's wedding in the Carribean. Today is the day that our friends, Adam & Kim are tying the knot! We are so excited to be sharing their wedding day with them.


{via Island Style Weddings}

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

Wedding Etiquette Wednesdays

Every Wednesday, I will try to shed some light on a Question that I find floating around the wedding'sphere.

Are couples expected to send thank you cards to guests who don't send a gift or bring a card to the wedding?

While you'll assume that everyone you invite to your wedding {and particularly those that actually attend the wedding day events} will give you a present, its not always the case. I've found that its not out of spite, its out of forgetfulness. Since guests have a lot of time to get you a present {pre-wedding day and then up to the 1st Anniversary} there's ample room to simply forget.

For every gift you receive {even if it is multiples from one guest} - they in turn must receive a thank you note for each gift they've given you. Your thank you note doesn't need to be some huge long letter, just a simple note {handwritten} thanking them for the gift + your intended use of said gift and that's generally enough. If they went above and beyond, let them know.

But, if a guest at your wedding simply attended the wedding but failed to give you a gift, there's no reason to send them a note thanking them for coming to the wedding. Ensure that throughout your reception, you stop at each table or group of people and thank them for coming. That personal attention to your guests is all that you need to do.

From Emily Post regarding thank you note etiquette:

•Anyone who gives you an engagement, shower or wedding gift, even if you have thanked them in person. Individual notes should be written to people who contributed to a group gift.
•Anyone who gives a gift of money: cash, checks, contributions to savings accounts and donations to charities. Mentioning the amount is optional, but it does let the person know the correct amount was received. You should mention what you plan to do with the money.
•Your attendants. A warm personal note attached to your gifts to your attendants will let them know how much you appreciate their efforts and support on your behalf.
•Anyone who hosted a party or shower for you. Ideally these notes should be written within two days of the event. Each host or hostess should be thanked individually with a note and a thank you gift.
•People who house or entertain your wedding guests. A note and a small gift should be sent to anyone who houses or entertains out-of-town wedding guests.
•People who do kindnesses for you. The neighbor who accepts delivery of your gifts when you are at work; the cousin who supervises the parking at the reception – anyone who assists you before, during or after your wedding.
•Suppliers and vendors. You don’t have to write everyone you hire for services, but anyone who exceeds your expectations will appreciate a courteous note of thanks.
•Your parents or whoever is hosting your wedding.




Tuesday, November 10, 2009

Real Wedding: Victoria & Vijay

We were so excited to plan and coordinate Victoria & Vijay's wedding in Saratoga Springs. They chose to have their ceremony at Victoria's childhood church, The Church of Holy Trinity, which was so beautiful and touching. The reception took place at the gorgeous Hall of Springs, which originally was a water bottling facility turned now into an event space. The wedding was a great combination of Victoria's home roots and Vijay's Indian heritage. My favorite part was the impromtu appearance of a popular Mumbai DJ who got everyone to Jai Ho throughout the hall.


Father and Daughter entering the Church


Simple and elegant bouquet - Victoria wanted an elegant and streamlined look


Love the reflecting pool on the Hall of Springs grounds. During their photo session, we witness some random people taking a swim to cool off - probably not the intended use of the pool!


The entire reception area


We had a combination of large arrangements and then smaller arrangements with candles. The bride's mother sewed the table runners to match the invitation suite which was made in India


We ended the evening with a fun candy bar - which the adults seemed to love more than the kids!

Venue: Hall of Springs, Saratoga Springs
Photographer: Seth from Niki Rossi Photography
Flowers: Sunflowers

Monday, November 9, 2009

Monday Musings



Paris, je t'adore ...

"The arms of love encompass you with your present, your past, your future, the arms of love gather you together."

by Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

Friday, November 6, 2009

Weekly Round Up

For the past week or so, Emilie Duncan, a wedding planner, has written a series on information that vendors wish brides knew. I implore you to check it out. There is a ton of HELPFUL information in here that will make your experience with your vendors a million times better.

Paloma's Nest, a fabulous creative firm that invented the original ring bearer bowl has got some incredible holiday gift items for sale - check them out for unqiue gifts!

I hope that everyone has an amazing weekend!

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